You will need a piece of paper for this one. 😊

What do you think your feeling because of your circumstances?

What or maybe, who, do you currently blame for how you are feeling?

Why do you blame those things or that person?

Consider for a moment that those things are not to blame.

What if it was your thoughts about those things or what the person did that is causing your feelings?

Don’t shoot the messenger, but I promise you the only reason you are feeling the way you are is because of your thoughts.

Pick one thing or person you are currently blaming for a feeling you are having – just one piece of your current circumstances and write it at the top of a piece of paper, then answer all of the above questions.

Now you might still look at that and want to tell me, I am wrong because you only had those thoughts because of the thing or person. (I know because when I first began this work, that is what I did LOL).

If this is you, I want you to ask yourself, if it is possible another person could have a different thought about the exact same circumstance or experience?

I also want you to ask yourself if there is any other thought that you could think that is equally believable to you and if so, write it down and then ask your self how do I feel when I think this thought?

I want you to notice that the feeling was different when you had a different thought. Now depending on that thought you felt a bit better or not, but it was still a different feeling caused by a different thought.

Stay with me on this because what I just offered you is life changing.  When we know that what we think about what is happening is causing our feelings and not what is actually happening we get the gift of being able to choose more helpful thoughts and feelings.

If you still have any doubts about the truth of this, I want you to consider a time when say a friend or family member has got engaged or perhaps been hurt and you weren’t there when it happened.  You were with other people when you were told about the event, and everyone heard the information at the same time.  There are two things worth acknowledging here, you had no feelings about the event before you were told even though it had already happened, and each person who heard it had their own thought about the information and all felt differently. 

So, everyone experienced the same circumstance but had a different experience of it.

This is only possible because our thoughts are what cause our feelings (our experience of it) not the events or our circumstances.

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